For the Bellisseria Citizens and Community of Secondlife

CONNECTING with the community

1. Service and Mindful sight.

The first of Buddhism’s paramitas, or perfections, is generosity. It is first because it opens us up to all the other perfections. It opens us up to life, and we begin to resonate with the way life naturally is. Engage generously with the community around you. Care about what matters to the community you want to be a part of—and that you’d like to be a part of you.

If you’re concerned about diversity, you need to talk about the bias that results in things in our society. To a Buddhist mind, it is hard to grasp the rise of racism and bigotry in modern times. It is sad that people still see a persons skin tone as separate or different. Consciousness is who we are, and the diversity is a precious and wonderful work of beauty. We want to reflect qualities of wisdom and compassion to everyone. Start seeing what a gift people are. People of different skin color, LGBT citizens and others are all equal with the same potential. Embrace them.

If we’re just talking about the concerns of the people who are already in our center, then those are the type of people who will come in the future. If everybody in the group is middle-class and white, then the mirrors are limited—you’re only seeing certain aspects of life reflected. We need all the mirrors. In the mirror is all of us, reflecting the qualities outward.

2. Take a good look at what’s right in front of you

Community outreach is an important aspect. Those in need, community gatherings, hospice care and needs. Be mindful of those around you and needs in the community.

Whatever’s right in front of you, that’s what you work on. Reflecting a Compassionate and wise nature helps lift others up. It often can begin a chain reaction of the same qualities.

3. Understand that your space is not neutral

Someone once commented that the centers s space was welcoming and neutral. So I asked, “How many people here have completed an undergraduate degree?” Everybody raised a hand. “How many people have a graduate degree?” Half the group, maybe more, raised their hands. “How many went to an Ivy League or comparable school?” Again, half the room.

If you think that’s a neutral environment, you’re out of your mind. The way people talked, their expectations, the conversations they had over lunch—these things don’t add up to a neutral environment.

Many of us take entitlement and privilege as “neutral.” So the first thing that we need to do is become aware of that. We might not see that it’s actually not neutral because entitlement and privilege are what we’re accustomed to. It’s the water we swim in.

So start seeing the environment you’re actually creating. See the way people are communicating, how they lean, what their assumptions are. Don’t take for granted that the environment in your center is neutral. It’s not.

4. Stop expecting people to come to you!

Why should they come to us? Just because we want a more diverse sangha? Who cares if we want a more diverse sangha? So that we can feel good? No! If communities matter to you, then serve those communities and don’t serve them as other communities. Understand that they are you.

Our liberation is completely entwined with everyone else’s liberation. Everybody needs to be in the room for all of us to wake up together. It’s not about helping anybody. It’s about us waking up together.

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